You’ve heard the idiom “you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.” I’ve heard it used with ants too, but the insect in question doesn’t matter.
On a side note, I’m amazed at the nonsense responses given on various websites to such a simple proverb. I’ve read the jokes too.
During the past few weeks I’ve been reminded at how unkind and downright nasty people can be in their speech and attitudes (and I’m not even referencing the world news). This has gone on since man was created, but with the invention of social media, we’re able to share it worldwide for all to see and read.
Several issues have appeared in the local news media that relate (somewhat) to architecture. Social media allows anyone to exercise their First Amendment right and share their opinion. Now, I am prone to sarcasm and can appreciate a good comeback. I don’t like it when people get nasty and take malicious shots against a person’s character. I think the difference is relatively obvious.
When people share critical comments on Facebook or type online comments in response to newspaper articles (via FB), I’ve noticed a pattern. Those with supportive or constructive comments typically write in complete sentences and proper grammar. Those with biting, nasty statements write with dreadful grammar and so many misspellings, it’s ridiculous. Yet, no one seems to care when they do this – I wonder if they know how it makes them appear.
I am in favor of architectural criticism. Moreover, everyone has the right to their opinion; we pride this as Americans. However, everyone’s opinion isn’t equally valid. Let’s just be honest.
As we develop, rebuild, construct and improve our cities, it’s appropriate to address the needs of the many and not just a few privileged. Nasty comments with improper grammar invalidates an opinion and the important part of the argument is not heard. There is an appropriate way to effect change.
If you wish to be heard, set out the honey and keep the vinegar for your salad dressing.
This is not intended to be a scientific experiment, so don’t email me clinical results.